How people measure your 100 percent

This is a lesson that I have learned many, many years ago the hard way and that I have tried to pass on to others ever since.

Your 100 percent performance will always be measured against how much you are giving and what you are doing for people when you begin interacting with them. It does not matter whether this is at work or in your private life.

Here is the rub: Even if you do three times as much for someone as anybody else would ever do – this will be your individual 100 percent in that person’s eyes. They won’t compare you to the others that give less than you.

Once you can no longer give what factually would be 300 percent, for the person judging you, you dropped below the 100 percent mark and their attitude and behavior towards you will change very quickly because you are no longer giving them what they are used to.

When you keep giving and supporting over a long time, it usually does not make people grateful and appreciative of your efforts. Unfortunately, most of the time it only makes them feel entitled. Only few will make the effort to ask what caused the change and even fewer will attempt to return the favor and ask you if they now can help you, because the tides might have turned, things might have happened and now you might be in need of someone’s help and support.

Always be kind, helpful and supportive and always do your best. But you must protect yourself and be careful and selective whom you give your all.

Switching to English for my fictional and personal writing

Last night, while writing Banshee, I noticed that I had subconsciously switched to English even for my fictional Рor deeply personal Рwriting.

Moving away from your mother tongue to express feelings close to your soul is a huge step. No matter how well you speak a foreign language, the nuances are different and you might have problems finding the right tone, phrase or even the right word – which would come naturally to you while using your native language.

On the other hand, most of my communication over the last years, even decades, has been primarily in English. And more often than not, the English expression for something comes to my mind first, because my brain is by now wired to communicate and even think in that language.

It still feels a bit weird, though. And also a bit sad. Truth be told, German is a much more powerful language than English. Words just have stronger meanings. German is a better language to express emotional depth. It is also more precise. I love my mother tongue.

But English is what the world speaks. At least in our time. I have no doubt in my mind that this will move to Chinese and Russian over the course of the next decades for geopolitical and economical reasons. The axis of power is shifting. But by the time those powers have fully risen, I probably won’t be alive anymore, so the cultural and political change that has already started is of little significance for me personally.

The world I live and work in speaks English. It’s only logical to use English as my primary language for everything.